In need of your opinions...

Hey everybody! Hows it going?

Got some rather interesting comments on my Curse of the Giantess picture, and, regardless of whether you're male or female, I wonder what you might think of them, and my reaction.

I've hidden the origonal comments, and won't say who it was, because I don't want to tempt anyone to cause trouble on his page. (It wasn't anyone I know, anyway.)
I just... Am not sure how to respond, beyond totally ignoring it. The whole thing brings me down something awful.

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The Comment:
Odd. I thought girls had fantasies about this sort of thing?
Ignoring the size difference, don't girls liked the sexual attention?
It's a pleasant surprise for them, isn't it?
No?
Strange. Maybe I'm looking at it from the wrong perspective, or there's something I don't understand.
But I see a whole bunch of people agreeing that getting random sex requests is a bad thing.
Doesn't it make you feel attractive and appreciated? I suppose not.
Makes you feel threatened, uncomfortable. Moreso than spam emails or door to door salespeople. But why?
It can't just be people making a request you don't feel like at that point in time.
But if it's not that, then were's the uncomfortable feelings come from?
I don't understand it. Someone note me if you can explain >.>

My Reply:
Well, not really.
While it is nice to receive attention, 99.9 times out of 100, we like to know we're getting said attention because the person giving it genuinely likes us. We like to get it from men we know very well, and never in the form sex requests.


They don't make us feel pretty at all. They tend to put us on red alert, and make us feel like a t-bone steak in front of a hungry dog.
Maybe you've heard that analogy before, but don't dismiss it out of hand. It's an awful feeling.

I've had jerks scream random stuff about my rack while driving past, and I just felt dirty and rotten and horribly, horribly ashamed.
(It's not even like I was showing any cleavage! I was wearing a green sweater! ;A; )

You get this kind of sick feeling in the pit of your stomach, and want to run and hide. You want to cover up as much as possible, and figure out what you did wrong that some stranger would say such a thing. (Are my jeans too tight? Is my neckline too low? Did I accidentally dress like a hooker today?)

Here's a pretty good article (written by a man) that explains our point of view quite well.
It deals mostly with nerd culture, but give it a full read through. Perhaps it'll help you understand where these feelings come from.

www.doctornerdlove.com/2011/12…

I would also suggest looking at his articles on Male Privilege in gaming.

The replies to my reply:
I'll read it and see if I can increase my learn.
I'll comment after my learn has increased.
I hope the article is informative!

(Shortly)

Oh good lord it's full of inaccurate feminist bullshit.
I can't read this!
I am very upset at how very, very wrong the content in those articles is.
I wish to shout and attack something. It is empathy with every poor soul that has had their worldview, their personality, and their life shit upon by this garbage. It feels like there are Evil, hurtful, malevolent creatures attacking the people I love and care about.
... Is this the feeling you get?

I don't understand the steak and dog analogy, because in this case the steak enjoys being eaten, and the same steak can be eaten a large number of times.
I don't understand why you'd feel dirty, rotten and ashamed at the attention.

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OOOOkay, so, I have to admit, I'm a bit... Upset... with this person. But I'm not sure if I can articulate any more clearly why I would feel so awful in these situations.
I hate it because I don't want guys looking at me, and having the first thing that comes to their mind being sex. I hate it because you're a stranger, I don't know you, and I have absolutely no interest in your opinion of my tits.
As for the whole Steak enjoying being eaten thing, sex is not always enjoyable, and you're just going to have to come to terms with the fact that not many random attractive woman you meet in the street are in the mood for it.
They have a right to be offended and say NO.

Generally it's not something I have to deal with much, because I'm shy and quiet and about as objectively erotic as a paper bag.

And I feel a bit hopeless here, because I don't think he really wants to understand.
As you can see, he kind of flipped out right away, instead of stopping to consider why I (as a bonafide female) might tend to agree with the article I sent him.
Sooo...

What the heck do I do?   '___'


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